Anger is known to control you. Anger can make you do things that you would never think of doing. There are two types of anger that I’ve come up with. Rage and anger kept inside. Those are both very unhealthy ways to deal with anger. Anger will hijack you and hold you captive.
We have to be able to recognize unhealthy anger. Unhealthy anger will cause you to make stupid mistakes. God gets angry but he does not get angry in a negative way but a possitive way. We have to let God redeeme the anger in our life. There is an earthy consequence and a spiritual consequence for our angry actions. We have to be careful with the meaning behind the words we use and the actions we make.
We must recognize when we are dealing with anger in an unhealthy way. Anger is always a choice. You can’t blame your anger on someone else because in the end you have choice. For some people it’s better not to confront the problem right away. Go for a walk. For christians you should ask yourself if you’re angry about something God is angry about. Learn how to express you anger in a way that will bring you more help rather than create a bigger situation.
Your going to get hurt. We are all broken people that make mistakes. We are part of the problem but we can be part of the solution. Gossip is the worst way to deal with your anger. The only thing gossip will bring in your life is more brokenness. Go to the person you are angry with one on one and lay down all your thoughts. If they don’t listen to you then bring a friend with you and lay it down. When you do that you will walk away with some closure.
To resolve a problem you have to attempt to make peace. Attempt to live at peace with everyone. When you have a problem with someone it is important that you make peace. The person that hurts you or that you have anger towards is still made in the image of God. That should be enough for you to find peace in the situation.
The gift of forgiveness is a gift from God. It brings healing to your heart, it answers prayers and will bring resolution to the conflict in your life. If the person doesn’t accept it, that’s alright because you will still have a huge burden lifted off your chest. For some people its hard to forgive if they’ve not felt forgiveness in their own life. If you feel that try to realize that the true forgiver and healer is God. Surrender your life.
(inspired by Jud Wilhite)
